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Improving Self-Esteem Index
INFORMATION UNCONDITIONAL SELF-WORTH. The most important part of learning how to become happier may be developing a self-esteem that is based upon an unconditional valuing of every human being (including yourself). Unconditionally valuing oneself and others means that no matter how poor, unsuccessful, weak, sick, unattractive, immoral, or wrong a person is or no matter what group they belong to, you still care about that person's well-being. Unconditional love means that you care about a person's health and happiness. Unconditional self-worth reduces anxiety from fears of failure, rejection, illness, and many other sources. Unconditional love of self and others also tends to make a person kinder and more loving toward others. That is probably why research has associated unconditional self-worth as a significant factor of mental health and happiness. SHAQ has one scale to measure unconditional self-worth. SELF-CONFIDENCE. The second part of self-esteem is (conditional) self-confidence. Self-confidence is conditional because it depends upon your success in various life situations. There are many types of self-confidence (examples: academic, social, financial, athletic, intellectual, self-control, etc.). Self-confidence can vary widely from one specific situation to another. The more a situation is like one we know we have been successful repeatedly in the past, the more likely we are to feel confident. The more unfamiliar or the less past success, the more we will lack confidence. Also, general positive or negative attitudes can affect confidence in specific situations. The best way to improve self-confidence in a particular type of situation is to improve relevant knowledge, skills, and experience. Also, take a look at your more general beliefs about yourself and your abilities to replace negative ones with more positive ones. SHAQ has a scale to measure various types of self-confidence. Look over your individual items. ADVICE Looking at yourself honestly, examining your underlying negative self-beliefs and ways that you don't accept parts of yourself, and replacing those negative beliefs with more honest, constructive ones is a more direct and powerful way of improving your self-esteem. Usually this process takes the help of a good psychologist or other trained counselor, but some people learn to do it on their own. How to Improve Your Self-Esteem
CSULB=>
Develop Greater Self-Worth and
Self-Confidence
**Life Focus Center's help for self-esteem,
etc ** Roger
Elliott, "self-esteem coach" provides "free" Internet
lessons. Also, links to general psychological self-help
provide many ideas for dealing with low self-esteem: Developing More Internal Control An important part of self-esteem is being relatively autonomous of too much influence by other people or too much dependence upon them to take care of you. Too much influence by others can take many forms--from depending upon someone to take care of you financially or emotionally to depending upon them needing you or validating who you are. For the more internally controlled person, others' approval or validation is a bonus and not a necessity for the a person to feel good about oneself. Too much external control tends to undermine
self-confidence and assertiveness for one's self-esteem as well as for
confidently relating to other people. Developing more internal control and
assertiveness (not aggressiveness) can significantly help one's self-esteem.
GO TO: book_sites.htm Counseling and
Psychological Services (CAPS) Other student services and
student organizations may also be helpful
To be developed later. Almost any activity that helps you learn self-management, emotional control, and interpersonal skills through becoming involved in ongoing activities and interacting with people can help develop self-esteem if you receive adequate positive feedback for your efforts. Harshly critical environments and those which don't develop useful skills may not be so good. To be developed later.
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