Improving Interpersonal
Relationships
Index
Information
Advice
Internet Links
Books & Media
CSULB Referrals
Other
INFORMATION
and ADVICE
Good relationships can improve success and
happiness in almost all life areas. Good relationships depend up many
factors of the persons involved and the situation in which the relationship
takes place. If you are having problems with relationships in general or
any particular relationship, the causes may be numerous and complex.
Nevertheless, they can be understood and progress can be made with good
self-analysis and/or help. Here are a few factors to consider:
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The type of relationship(s)
[business, friendship, romantic, etc.] |
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Are you having this type
of problem with just this one person, or is it a pattern that has been a
problem before? A pattern indicates a bigger problem with yourself. |
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If it is a pattern, are
you making bad choices about who to approach (e. g. Approaching someone
mainly because they are attractive, but who has little in common with you,
approaching someone who you are attracted to for being confident and strong
but later dominates you, approaching someone who does everything to please
you but you later find uninteresting, etc.)? |
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Make a list of criteria of
what you want in a relationship [job, spouse, friend, whatever]. Then
evaluate both the people you have been picking and YOURSELF by these
criteria. Perhaps that will help you discover the problem. |
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What are you doing (or not
doing) that is contributing to the problem? No matter how many problems
others may have, you can only change yourself! So get started figuring
out how to relate to others better. |
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Take our SHAQ CARES
assessment to get some feedback, get feedback from others, go to the
Internet links, and seek other help. Many people have made radical
differences in their interpersonal skills and relationships. The key
is getting good information, persistent trying and examining the results,
and trying some more. |
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INTERNET
LINKS
Also, go to more specific relationship
issues by clicking on the boxes at the top of this web page.
General
Interpersonal Relationship Help
CSULB=> Choose To Be Happy In Relationships
A set of general guidelines connected to other links for specific step-by-step help for improving relationships of all types--especially close or romantic ones. Dr. Tom Stevens
http://www.csulb.edu/~tstevens/chaprels.htm
***Virtual Pamphlet Collection of the
University of Chicago--SEE RELATIONSHIPS, ASSERTIVENESS, ETC.
Free online pamphlets about relationships and many other topics written by
psychologists and other counselors from University Counseling Centers across
U.S.A.
http://counseling.uchicago.edu/vpc
***American Psychology Association Free online
search for self-help topics.
Good information, but much not written for general public.
http://www.apa.org/psychnet/
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Advice
Columns
DEAR ABBY
Abigail Van Buren's newspaper column is a classic. Here is the on-line
version. They accept e-mails.
ANN LANDERS
Site needs work, but Ann Landers is a classic.
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BOOKS
& MEDIA
GO TO: book_sites.htm
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CSULB
REFERRALS
CSULB
Student Services
Counseling and
Psychological Services (CAPS)
CSULB students can obtain free counseling from licensed psychologists for almost
any type of personal problem including relationships and family problems;
stress, anxiety, depression, anger, grief; academic-related concerns; career
decision-making; crises; and almost any type of self-development issue. We
offer individual and group counseling, workshops, and self-help materials
including this web site. Brotman Hall, Room 226; 562-985-4001; web site: www.csulb.edu/~caps
The Luster E. and Audrey Nichol Hauth Center for Communication Skills
We CAN make a difference in communication skills training for ALL CSULB students, interested faculty and members of the
larger social and business community in Southern California. Here at the Hauth Center you will have the opportunity to enhance your own personal communication skills in a variety of
contexts. We can provide you with individualized assistance to become an effective public speaker, conversationalist, or group
leader. Communication professionals use their expertise and multimedia technology to provide you with rehearsal, coaching, and
consultation. LAB 200; Sponsored by the Department of Communication Studies,
CSULB.
http://www.csulb.edu/web/centers/hauth/
Other student services and
student organizations may also be helpful
Go to CSULB student information page for a comprehensive list of student services and activities
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