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Developing Intimacy and Closeness in Relationships of All Kinds Index
INFORMATION
and ADVICE When people mysteriously fall out of love, it is often because the intimacy disappears. Lack of communication and sexual intimacy can destroy an otherwise good relationship. Communication intimacy consists primarily of self-disclosure (give information) and empathetic listening (receive information) skills. Most people think they are good at both. They probably meet minimal skill levels. But few people are very good at both. Look at your score on our SHAQ intimacy scale. Good self-disclosure means being open about telling what your emotions are as you talk and revealing your innermost thoughts and feelings to someone you trust. It means telling what your dreams, hopes, interests, goals, and plans are to that person. It also means communicating both positive and negative feelings about your partner in a loving and constructive manner. The overwhelming majority of comments would be honest compliments. If you don't honestly feel that way about your partner, then the relationship probably has serious problems that you may need to address in counseling or elsewhere. See our conflict resolution skills help. Good empathetic listening skills involve some of the following qualities:
In addition good intimacy skills involve:
Developing (and using) good intimacy skills can have a dramatic effect on not only your love relationships, but your friendships and your work relationships as well. Developing Intimacy Beliefs and Skills CSULB=>
Improving Communication, Intimacy, and Conflict Resolution CSULB=>
Testing factors
related to relationship success. Take SHAQ (Success and Happiness
Attributes Questionnaire) and focus on relationship and intimacy subtests. ***Virtual Pamphlet Collection of the
University of Chicago--SEE RELATIONSHIPS, ASSERTIVENESS ***American Psychology Association Free online
search for self-help topics. **Nine ‘Psychological Tasks’ Needed for a Good Marriage
Developing Self-Esteem and Internal Control Sometimes people have trouble being themselves or being open with others because they lack self-confidence. They may be too worried about what others think, about losing approval, or about being rejected. If this may be a problem for you, then see our help sections below: Go to our help pages on Self-Esteem and Internal Control and Assertiveness. GO TO: book_sites.htm Counseling and
Psychological Services (CAPS) The Luster E. and Audrey Nichol Hauth Center for Communication Skills Other student services and
student organizations may also be helpful Courses offered related to the family, interpersonal communication and relationships can be helpful. Look in the departments of Psychology, Educational Psychology, Family and Consumer Science, Speech Communication, and Sociology for potential related courses. Student activities can help you develop your
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