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SELF-DESENSITIZATION
INSTRUCTIONS A Proven Technique To Reduce Fears, Phobias, and Anxiety INDEX Systematic Desensitization Therapy The Self-Desensitization Process and Steps 1. Creating the Anxiety Hierarchy 3. The Desensitization Sessions Instructions are based upon the desensitization procedure
developed by Joseph Wolpe. (see his book, AThe
Practice of Behavior Therapy@).
In
about 90% of the cases, persons completing desensitization are able to reduce
fears or anxieties to normal levels of the fears/anxieties one associated with
specific situations They were designed so that one person can administer
desensitization to himself. It
would also be possible to administer them to someone else.
DS has been demonstrated by many experiments to be an effective way of
reducing fears.
Over the years you have learned to associate the feelings of
anxiety, nervousness, discomfort, and the desire to avoid with your target
behavior. The techniques you will
learn from this manual will enable you to gradually learn a new set of
associations for your target behavior. The
new associations will be relaxation, calmness, comfort, and a willingness to
interact in your target behavior. Using this manual, you will use the same techniques
professional therapists employ in helping people relieve their anxiety
reactions. The manual will be
divided into four major sections: constructing
an anxiety hierarchy; learning desensitization techniques; learning role
playing techniques; and keeping a record of your progress and your target
behavior when it occurs (as
you did when keeping records of your baseline).
When a person learns to feel anxious in a situation, he can be taught to
not to feel anxious by
using a technique called desensitization. The purpose of this desensitization portion of the
manual is to teach you to do something that is incompatible with the anxiety
you feel in your target situation; that is, the purpose of desensitization
is to teach you to relax in your target situation by giving you repeated
experiences of imagining various situations that are related to your target
situation while you are relaxed. Obviously, a state of deep relaxation is psychologically and physically
incompatible with fear, discomfort, and anxiety. Usually, when a situation bothers us, we avoid dwelling on it
or thinking about it frequently; and when we do think about it, we feel a
bit anxious and uncomfortable. Using
desensitization therapy, you will be able to think about your target
behavior and imagine it vividly without feeling anxious for you will be in a
totally relaxed state. After
you are able to imagine the situation in total relaxation, you will be well
on your way to decreasing the anxiety you feel in the real-life situation,
enabling you to feel more comfortable and confident.
In other words, by following this process of relaxation while
imagining your target situation, you will become Adesensitized@
to it, and the situation will lose much of its power to cause you
anxiety.
A final part of this desensitization process must be mentioned.
If, at the beginning of desensitization, you were to imagine your
target situation in its most frightening form, you would probably not be
able to relax. An example of
this would be a boy, whose target situation is interacting with members of
the opposite sex, imagining himself with an attractive girl on a date.
It would be difficult, if not impossible, to desensitize yourself to
your target situation all at once. Therefore,
what you must do is desensitize yourself to the situation bit by bit.
You must approach the fearful situation very gradually, working on
its least anxiety-arousing components first so that desensitization will
proceed gradually enough that you won=t have to present an aspect of the fear that is too great to handle.
It=s
like working one=s
way up to lifting a great weight by starting with very small ones.
In order to work your way gradually through the target behavior, you
must construct what is called an anxiety hierarchy, which is a
list of component situations related to your target situation B arranged in order from least to most frightening, or situations leading
up to your target behavior. More
detailed instructions will be given later on in the manual. Desensitization Steps
Those, then, are the basic principles involved in
desensitization. Here is a
brief summary of the steps you will go through in desensitizing yourself: Step 1. Anxiety
Hierarchy. First, you will construct an anxiety hierarchy, which is a list of
those situations involved in and leading up to your target situation ranked
in order from the lease disturbing to the most disturbing. Step
2.
Relaxation Training. Then you will train yourself in deep muscle relaxation. Step
3. Desensitization
Sessions. You will then go through a series of desensitization sessions.
At the beginning of a session, using what you=ve learned from your deep muscle relaxation training (to be explained), you
will relax. You will
then imagine a scene representing the weakest item on your hierarchy while
maintaining your relaxed state. A
given step on your anxiety hierarchy must be repeatedly imagined until you
no longer exhibit anxiety at the presentation of it.
You will then imagine the next higher anxiety-producing step, and so
on. Thus, the anxiety cues are
gradually decreased until you can present the most frightening step without
feeling any anxiety whatsoever.
The desensitization procedure makes
use of the fact that a person=s
anxiety response (tensing of muscles, feeling of discomfort, uptightness,
etc.,) to the imagined situation
resembles his anxiety response to the real situation.
So, when you can feel entirely comfortable and relaxed when thinking
of your target behavior, your real-life target situation will
shortly begin to be progressively less anxiety-producing.
Experience with patients has proven this method of relaxing while
imagining to be quite effective in reducing anxiety.
The purpose of the first half of this manual is to teach you
precisely how to construct an anxiety hierarchy, learn deep muscle
relaxation, and desensitize your self to the steps in your hierarchy,
thereby helping you reduce the anxiety you experience in your target
situation. Thus, the first half of the manual is divided into three
sections:
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1. Create The Anxiety Hierarchy Step 1. Create The Anxiety Hierarchy
The anxiety hierarchy is a list of situations relating to your
target behavior to which you react with varying degrees of anxiety. The most disturbing item is placed at the bottom
of the list and the least disturbing at the top.
In working on the hierarchy, you will begin with the top item on the
list (that is, the least disturbing item) and work step by step through the
hierarchy to the last item (the one which produces the greatest anxiety
affecting your target behavior). Thus, the hierarchy provides a framework for desensitization,
through relaxation, of progressively more anxiety-producing situations.
Construction of an anxiety hierarchy
can aid you in three ways:
1.
It helps you verbalize your problem and set it down in terms of
concrete situations which you have, or perhaps will, come up against in real
life. 2.
You will begin to analyze your problem
further by breaking it down into situational components which will make it
easier for you to see what specific things about the target
behavior cause you anxiety; how they are related to anxiety-provoking
situations other than your target behavior; and how the problem may be
systematically approached. 3.
You will place the problem in a form that can be treated by this
method.
Some people say that merely constructing the anxiety hierarchy has
therapeutic value. They have an
increased understanding of the problem and a clearer idea of how and why
they experience anxiety in certain social situations.
Constructing The Hierarchy
Constructing a good hierarchy is very important since it provides the
framework for approaching the problem.
Time and care must be devoted to it.
As was stated above, the hierarchy is a list of the situations
related to your target behavior which you react to with graded amounts of
anxiety. Such a hierarchy is
constructed in three steps. Now,
please get a pencil and some paper and follow the instructions closely.
1.
Write down as many situations as you can think of in which the
problem occurs. If you are
nervous with strangers or members of the opposite sex, for instance, write
down these specific situations in which you experience
difficulty. Write down all you
can think of. Your list will
include some situations which are worse than others.
Some will be very frightening, some hardly frightening at all, and
some in between.
2.
Make a list of some of the VARIABLES that affect your anxiety
level. This can
increase your insight into the causes of your anxiety and make
it easier to create a good hierarchy.
a
)
Examples of
variables affecting the amount of anxiety in presenting a speech
to a class: class size; length
of speech; amount of preparation; importance of speech; how critical
instructor is; length of time before the speech (week before, night before,
walking to classroom, being called upon to give speech, etc.); how personal
the speech is; degree to which others will disagree with it; etc.
b
)
Other common variables
affecting anxiety levels; amount of rejection expected; sex of other person;
attractiveness of other person; difficulty of test; etc.
c
)
Look at some of the sample hierarchies and identify variables affecting the amount of anxiety in them.
Of course each person is unique, but there are often similarities
between hierarchies.
1.
Now arrange these items in order from the least
upsetting to the most upsetting by thinking about each one and
imagining just how bad it would be to be in that situation. 2.
Now build your final hierarchy.
Most people include about 10-20 items (you may have more) beginning
with items so mild that they are practically non-frightening.
You might have to invent some very mild items such as
having someone say the word Agirl@ (for guys who are afraid of Agirls@),
or looking at the picture of a professor (for people who are afraid of those
with high status), etc. The ten
to twenty items should be chosen so as to contain very small jumps in
severity from one item to the next, so that when you have finished an item
you don=t have a very much harder item just in front of you.
The final items, of course, should be the most severe items from the
original list.
This ranked list of anxiety evoking
items constitutes the hierarchy that you will use in your treatment. Modifications additions, combining of items, and further
breaking-down of items on the hierarchy may be made at any time during the
desensitization therapy. Most
people=s
hierarchies require some modification as desensitization.
To aid you in constructing your hierarchy, we have included five
sample hierarchies below. Studying
these hierarchies will give you a good idea of how they are constructed and
should help you construct yours. These
are, however, samples only to show you the form.
You must construct your own hierarchy which applies to your specific
case. Hierarchy #1 Target Behavior: Anxiety when interacting with members of the opposite sex. 1. Being with a member of the opposite sex who is a member of my family. 2. Being with a member of the opposite sex I know very well, who is not a member of my family. 3. Seeing a member of the opposite sex I know fairly well. 4. Smiling at a member of the opposite sex I know fairly well. 5. Talking to a member of the opposite sex I know fairly well. 6. Seeing a member of the opposite sex I know slightly or not at all on campus. 7. Smiling at a member of the opposite sex I know slightly or not at all. 8. Saying hello to a member of the opposite sex I know slightly or not at all. 9. Meeting a very attractive member of the opposite sex for the first time. 10. Talking on the phone a short time with a member of the opposite sex. 11. Talking on the phone a short time with a member of the opposite sex. 12. Talking in person for a short time with a member of the opposite sex. 13. Talking for a long time (e.g., one hour ) with a member of the opposite sex. 14. Asking out or being asked out by an attractive member of the opposite sex. 15. Being on a date with a very attractive member of the opposite sex. Hierarchy #2 Target Behavior: Anxiety when interacting with my boss. 1. At home the night before I go to work, thinking about my boss. 2. Driving to work, thinking about my boss. 3. Walking into the building, thinking about my boss. 4. Entering the office or the room where I work. 5. Greeting and talking to those I work with about the boss. 6. Seeing the boss from afar. 7. Passing the boss. 8. Smiling at the boss. 9. Saying hello to the boss and exchanging greetings. 10. Asking the boss a short question about my job. 11. Asking the boss a more detailed question. 12. Listening to the boss give instructions and then performing them. 13. Talking with the boss on a more personal level. 14. Listening to the boss evaluate my work. 15. Talking to and taking an order from the boss when he=s very rushed or brusque-acting. Hierarchy #3 Target Behavior: Anxiety when interacting with strangers or those I don=t know very well. 1. Seeing a stranger from a distance. 2. Walking through a group of strangers. 3. Seeing a stranger walking towards me. 4. Passing a stranger. 5. Looking at a passing stranger who is also looking at me. 6. Smiling or nodding to a stranger I=ve often passed. 7. Being spoken to be someone who sits near me in class. 8. Talking to a class member I don=t really know abut the course material in a small classroom discussion. 9. Being approached by and talking to someone in my class. 10. Being approached by and talking on a more personal level with someone I know slightly. 11. Meeting one stranger. 12. Meeting two or three strangers. 13. Meeting a group of strangers (5-15). 14. Talking briefly with a stranger I just met. 15. Talking at length with a stranger I just met. 16. Talking briefly with two or three strangers. 17. Talking at length with two or three strangers. 18. Talking briefly with a group of strangers. 19. Talking with a group of strangers I just met. 20. Introducing myself and initiating conversation with strangers. Hierarchy #4 Target Behavior: Anxiety when interacting with a certain person. 1. Smiling at the person. 2. Saying hello to the person. 3. Asking the person how he is. 4. Asking the person a short, factual question (e.g., about school). 5. Asking the person a more detailed question that takes longer to answer. 6. Telling the person a short experience I had. 7. Asking the person=s opinion on a non-anxiety arousing topic. 8. Telling the person my opinion on a non-anxiety arousing topic. 9. Asking the person two or three questions and responding to his answers. 10. Telling the person something about myself, like my family. 11. Talking back and forth with the person for a long time about a factual topic. 12. Talking back and forth with the person on a more personal level. 13. Approaching the person and beginning a long conversation. Hierarchy #5 Target Behavior: Fear of speaking up in class. 1. At home, the night before I go to class. 2. Driving to school before the class. 3. Walking to my class. 4. Walking inside the classroom. 5. Looking around at the people in the room. 6. Walking in and saying hello to someone in the room. 7. Sitting down in the front row. 8. Catching the professor=s eye and smiling. 9. Nodding or agreeing with a comment made in class. 10. Asking the professor a question from the front of the room. 11. Asking the professor a question from the back of the room. 12. Answering a short question from the front of the room. 13. Answering a short question from the back of the room 14. Answering a longer question. 15. Making a comment on a particular point to the class.
NOTE: This hierarchy was
designed by a student for himself. He
was 23 and had never had a date. Within
a few months, he had completed his hierarchy in REAL LIFE.
A Hierarchy Of Interacting With Opposite Sex 1. Being with a member of the opposite sex who is a member of the family. 2. Being with a member of the opposite sex who is not a member of the family 3. Seeing a less attractive member of the opposite sex that I know not so well. 4. Smiling at a less attractive member of the opposite sex that I know not so well. 5. Saying Ahi@ or Ahello@ to a less attractive member of the opposite sex. 6. Talking to a less attractive member of the opposite sex for a short time. 7. Conversing with a less attractive member of the opposite sex for a long time. 8. Capitalize on free information when conversing with a less attractive member of the opposite sex. 9. Utilizing open-ended questions in a conversation with a member of the opposite sex, who is less attractive. 10. Seeing a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex I know not so well. 11. Smiling at a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex I know not so well. 12. Saying Ahi@ or Ahello@ to a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex. 13. Talking to a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex for a short time. 14. Listening to a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex for a short time. 15. Conversing with a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex for a long period. 16. Capitalizing on free information when conversing with a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex. 17. Utilizing open-ended questions when conversing with a moderately attractive member of the opposite sex. 18. Meeting a very attractive member of the opposite sex for the first time. 19. Seeing a very attractive member of the opposite sex that I know not so well. 20. Smiling at a very attractive member of the opposite sex that I know not so well. 21. Saying Ahi@ or Ahello@ to a very attractive member of the opposite sex that I know not so well. 22. Talking to a very attractive member of the opposite sex that I know not so well. 23. Listening to a very attractive member of the opposite sex that I know that so well. 24. Conversing with a very attractive member of the opposite sex for a short time that I know fairly well. 25. Conversing with a very attractive member of the opposite sex for a long period that I know fairly well. 26. Smiling at each other. 27. Eye-to-eye contact. 28. Asking for initiating activities together a. ACould I walk you out to your car.@ b. In asking for a phone number, give yours first. c. Asking him or her for a date. d. Asking him or her for a dinner date. 1. Putting your personal feelings forward. a. AYou have a warm and sensitive nature about you.@ b. AYou are a very beautiful person.@ c. ABeing close with you sure makes me feel nice inside.@ d. AI would like to get to know you better.@ e. AI am beginning to like you a lot.@ f) AI would like to become a friend with you.@ 1. Coming to grips with your feelings about him or her for the moment. 2. Opening up and saying what you feel about him or her. 3. Express compliments B feelings about the other person. a) AI like the way you wear your long beautiful hair.@ b) AYou have lovely eyes.@ 1. Expressing physical B sexual approaches a) Snuggling up close to him or her b) Putting your arm around his or her shoulder c) Touching his or her hands B receiving positive vibes. d) Eye-to-eye contact. e) Touching his or her hair. f) Holding his or her face within your hands. 1. A Kiss a) On the hand. b) On the face. c) On the forehead. d) On the lips. 1. A hug B an embrace. 2. A caress B a total body caress. 3. Being close to one another so as to share and enjoy each other. 4. Non-demand pleasuring of your partner. _ (When you have constructed your hierarchy, write out each item on a separate index card and number the cards in the proper order. This will give you a convenient reference during the desensitization sessions. Please write your items on one side of the card only, as the other side will be used for record keeping.) _ At this point, also make 4 positive, very relaxing scenes. (One might be a positive outcome scene related to your hierarchy situation). Step
2.
Deep
Muscle Relaxation
As Discussed above in the introductory section of the manual, people
are desensitized to the anxiety-evoking items on their hierarchy by stopping
the anxiety with relaxation.
In order to do this, you must first learn to relax completely,
and also learn how to achieve this relaxation at will.
The technique which
behavior therapists use to relax patients is known as deep muscle
relaxation. This technique will help you to achieve a very deep and
thorough state of relaxation, enabling you to progress through the
desensitization of your hierarchy.
Before beginning your desensitization sessions, you should spend at
least two half-hour sessions or two days, a half hour per day (beginning
tomorrow) practicing the relaxation technique.
In order to receive the full benefit of deep muscle relaxation, you
should observe the following guidelines in relaxation training:
1.
Spend at least one twenty-minute session, every other day, relaxing
and imaging the steps in your hierarchy.
2.
Read and imagine acting out the steps in a setting in which you can
carry through the full twenty-minute session uninterrupted.
3.
It is of the utmost importance that the relaxation training sessions
(as well as the desensitization sessions) be carried through without
interruption.
4.
It is also important that you concentrate completely on each of the
relaxation procedures and carry out the exercises as instructed.
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