Some
radical feminism aspects take wrong turn
Sophia
Martens
I was very annoyed with a recent article I read on oral sex in a national newspaper.
I found it typical of the feminist perspective.
I proudly proclaim myself a strong, independent, modern woman, and not a feminist,
but still in an era where women aren’t suppose to like sex — a
stereotype perpetuated by many, including feminists, who like to place women
on pedestals as morally superior to men, or as victims trying to survive in
a world slanted against us. I’m so tired of what the feminist movement
has turned into, but that’s an entirely different topic. I want to talk
about sex.
I love sex. I love men. I love talking about sex with friends, including men.
I find myself in the perfect position — no pun intended — to talk
openly about it. I graduate this summer and am getting married to my second
husband four months later in Hawaii, so “Martens” is neither my
maiden nor my future name, which means I don’t have to be “demure.”
I haven’t been with a lot of guys, but it did take me two tries for happiness.
I was told I’m not supposed to like thinking of sex or like having sex,
so always wanting to be a good girl, I pretended to be a prude and remained
a virgin throughout high school. Still, I found satisfying ways around “Prudesville” by
always speaking to my gym teacher after class, in his office, inside the boys’ locker
room, and in full view of the boys’ showers where I became a loyal aficionado
of the male form.
I love fellatio, and I disagree with feminists who think women can find
no pleasure in it. I find lots of pleasure in taking control of a man’s
body while making him lose control, then in turn having him passionately dominate
me during intercourse. This is an example of a give-and-take relationship.
Sometimes I have sex when I don’t really feel like it, and he does the
same. Yes, in spite of sexist stereotypes, men aren’t sex machines. Women
should be so lucky.
But being considerate to each other’s feelings and needs are important
in any relationship, so if a woman feels fellatio is “humiliating,” then
she should either find a man who doesn’t like it (good luck) or stop
reading the feminist perspectives because believing that all men are enemies
waiting to “oppress” women won’t lead to a healthy relationship.
Sometimes it seems feminists want women to be centurion guards protecting the
sacred entity named “vagina.” The best thing I ever realized after
two long-term relationships and one failed marriage is that I don’t have
to be a feminist to be a strong, independent, and sometimes satirical modern
woman.
I’m not afraid of sex, that “his” needs are just as important
as mine or most importantly, that a vagina isn’t a “precious” commodity
or a bayonet to control your partner. Ages ago many feminists fought hard for
the sexual freedoms women enjoy today, and women shouldn’t have to swallow
their pride to enjoy it — they can spit.
For fun reading I recommend “Women Who Make the World Worse : and How
Their Radical Feminist Assault Is Ruining Our Schools, Families, Military,
and Sports,” by Kate O’Beirne
Sophia Martens is a senior nursing major.
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