Is
monogamy really a joke? (No Me Calles)
Julie
Guevara
For
those of you that don't speak Spanish, the
title of this column will not make sense.
That's okay. Its meaning is on its way.
I wanted to build a forum where I could
implement the idea of free speech and not
be tied down by the reigns of society. "No
me calles," translates to "Don't shut me
up," in English. So there you go.
No
Me Calles is not only limited to my own
ideas, but also lends itself to you as the
student. If you have anything you feel needs
to be brought to the attention of others,
feel free to make this just as much your
column as is it is mine. Keep reading
and eventually you will understand.
Three
accomplished, fairly handsome men walk into
a bar. One of them says to the other, "Hey,
go order me some buffalo wings and an Long
Island." Without hesitation, he does what
he is told. He comes back with the drink
and tells the guy that his wings will be
right up. If you think this is the set up
to a bad joke, there's no punch line. The
only punch line you'll find here is the
conversation that ensued soon there after,
but you may not find it all that humorous.
All
three of them continued to hang out ordering
round after round laughing the night away.
I was the server for that part of the bar,
which was the patio that night. I asked
if they wanted to order anything or if they
were just bringing their drinks outside
to have a smoke. The latter was their answer.
Somehow
a simple question turned into a heated debate
on monogamy. Having seen what infidelity
had done to others and being the cheater
as well as the cheated, I argued that being
faithful was key to a successful relationship.
I was shocked to hear that these men, who
seemed all talk and no play, couldn't remember
how many women they had been with since
they'd married their wives. One complained
about his wife always being tired, another
was sick of the same thing every night and
the other, se quedo callado. You know what
they say about the quiet ones.
According
to a fact sheet posted by the Rocky Mountain
Family Council in Denver, infidelity is
the cause of 17 percent of divorces in the
United States and 90 percent of Americans
feel that cheating is morally wrong. Just
because they feel it's morally wrong doesn't
always stop them for engaging in the affair.
22
percent of men have cheated at least once
while being married and 14 percent of women
have done so as well. Men and women cheat
for different reasons, but whatever those
reasons are, it still doesn't make it right.
It is never right anyway that you look at
it. What it comes down to is if you can
get away with it. Most people aren't sorry
until they get caught.
After
bashing their egos for a moment or two,
I continued to listen to these men attempt
to convince me into believing that cheating
was not wrong. One of them happened to have
a daughter. "If your daughter's husband
were to cheat on her, how would you feel?"
I asked. I was more repulsed by his answer.
"If
her husband treated her as well as I treat
my wife, it would be okay," he replied.
What the heck is wrong with these people?
Why stay in a relationship if you still
aren't ready to stay committed? My friends
might say that I am the last person to talk
about monogamy, but I'll tell you one thing.
The person I am with, knows exactly what
I have done. And let's just say, he's still
with me.
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